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ceYoGA: Life Balance

As an ex-CEO in early retirement, I am pursuing several paths to strengthen skills that have laid dormant and neglected for the past two decades. One of these new pursuits is a training program to become a certified yoga teacher.

In The Circus of Life, yoga is a great complement to being a CEO. While one requires skills of juggling, multi-tasking, thinking of every impact and consequences; the other requires balance, singular focus, and training oneself to be fully present focused on every breath and movement.

I decided to pursue yoga training/certification as a way to do a deep dive into yoga and get even closer to my wife who has been on a yoga journey for the past 15 years. I also wanted this yoga teacher training as a way to commit to more regular exercise and getting fit – It has given me so much more.

My small weekday class at YogaFox is a wonderful and eclectic cross-section of people, good people. There is a fire/belly dancer juggling multiple priorities as she builds a business of teaching and managing entertainers; a young kick-fighter who is building so much confidence as she gets fit and, literally, kicks ass; a mother who is using yoga training as a way to bring some focus back to herself; a newly pregnant woman who is learning to manage her changing center of gravity every month; and myself, an ex-CEO who is taking the time to reflect, get re-grounded, and take better care of himself. Good people, each on a journey for different reasons and each enjoying each other’s company one week a month for six months.

Our teacher is highly educated in yoga and shares everything from the incredible and cleansing experiences of breathing, to the history and philosophy of yoga, to leading and assisting the asanas (postures), and the management of running a yoga studio. She brings humor into our class as we realize at the same time how beneficial it is to truly bring yoga into our daily life, and how challenging that can be in today’s world.

Yoga PhilosophyYesterday we studied and discussed the Yamas and Niyamas of yoga – the restrains and observations. Each yama and niyama was fascinating as we discussed it in depth. Each spoke to me as exactly what I need to focus on right now. Each had depth and applicability to every individual in every situation. And each was more relevant in today’s hectic, ego-centric, type A world, than ever before. A few examples:

YamasAhimsa (non-violence) – “My thoughts and actions are focused on loving awareness. I nurture and cherish myself and others. I am aware that the mind sometimes entertains thoughts of fear, anger, or selfishness but I do not get caught in these thoughts or act upon them. I accept, without judgement, any uncomfortable mental states. I release them and return to gentle, non-violent expressions of my energy.” – what a wonderful demonstration of how we can take the skills of meditation (quieting the mind and letting thoughts pass without judgement) into our daily lives… and what a challenge!

Asteya (Non-Stealing) – “I live in gratitude for all I have. I take and use only what is rightfully mine. I respect the possessions and talents of others and release my desires to own objects or talents I do not have. I appreciate my life as it is.”

Yoga NiyamaTapas (Austerity) – “I cultivate discipline. I have a realistic, balanced schedule for my seva (service), sadhana (practice), and personal needs. I am disciplined and also relaxed. I do not drain my energy by over effort and over work. My purpose is clear, my mind is decisive.”

Each yama or niyama can be very deep on its own, relating to our bodies, our minds, our actions, our environment, and our relationship with others. Each can be seen in the space of a moment, a day, or a lifetime. At the same time, when you look at the set of 10 yamas and niyamas we also see the balance between them. While Asteya (non-stealing) says we release our desire to own an object or talent we do not have, Tapas (austerity) says we bring daily discipline to work on ourselves. Thus, it is a balance of personal commitment and improvement without an unhealthy desire or focus on the outcome. Simply enjoy each moment, the journey, the practice… and by doing so, we will grow regardless.

Unknowingly, my yoga journey is quite yoga-esque. I did not sign up for yoga training because I have a strong desire to become a yoga instructor. I signed up to create a daily practice, to learn, and to gain something new I can share with my wife. And because of this, I am enjoying my training all the more – not thinking about ‘what will be on the test’ or ‘can I master teaching the class’ – simply appreciating the time together for one week a month with wonderful people, each on their own journey in life. Damn! I am starting to sound like a real yogi!

Each month when my yoga training week comes around I experience some resistance. “Oh no, there goes my whole week.” Then we take a few slow, deep breaths, and the world melts away and I can see it from a more distant perspective. At its best, yoga is calming and energizing; it is self-improving and non-judgemental; it is focused and mind expanding; it is priceless and I am glad to be on my journey with my instructor, my belly dancer, kick-fighter, mother, and mom-to-be.

… I can’t wait until next month!

What are you exploring along your life journey?!

To Give and To Receive

The Greatest Joys in Life:  Two stories that tie together for a life lesson — stay with me!

As part of my retirement (or re-tire-ment) journey, I am pursuing a variety of learning opportunities.  One of them includes learning to play the guitar.  Wanting to be financially prudent, I found and enrolled in a community course for beginner guitar one evening a week at a local high school.

Guitar Class
Guitar Class for Beginners

I had been looking forward to the class and went last night…  thirty minutes into the hour I was about to text my wife to say, “This is a disaster!”  Fortunately, I did not send the text as the evening was about to change.

It was a wonderfully diverse class of 15 students.  All races, a variety of backgrounds, ages from 40’s to 80’s!  The teacher was very nice but this seemed to be her first time teaching a group instead of one-to-one.  She was quiet and had a hard time getting everyone on the same page, literally.  It seemed to be a waste of time as so many people did not even understand which string to play, where to put their fingers, etc. and the group was losing interest.

Instead of sending that text to my wife — I took a slow breath and turned to the lady next to me to see if I could help.  While I had learned a bit of guitar 30 years ago, she had never touched one and was completely finger-tied.  I showed her where to put her fingers, and we started to go through the first lesson slowly together.  Within minutes, we were playing the first songs together, smiling and laughing.  When we finished, we looked up and the class laughed and applauded!

The teacher had others begin to pair up in two’s and three’s and suddenly the class energy lifted as everyone got to know each other.  By the time we left (and most stayed for more than the hour) we were smiling and looking forward to next week.

By slowing down and taking time to connect to each other, the evening went from near “disastrous” to one of new connections, fun, and engaged learning.

Yoga Practice in Retirement
Yoga is a great retirement pursuit – teaching it can be even more rewarding!

The same day, my wife was about to teach one of her first yoga classes.  My wife has practiced yoga passionately for more than a decade and recently became certified to teach so she could share her passion with others.  She has realized that as much as she loves to practice yoga, teaching yoga is something else entirely for someone who has no desire to be the center of attention.

An opportunity came up for my wife to teach yoga at a home for battered women.  My wife has an incredibly giving heart and this seemed perfect for her — she could bring the love of yoga, the strength of yoga, to women who needed it.  She could teach them and share with them during their time of need.  And she wouldn’t feel as much pressure to be a perfect instructor.

She prepared for the class – reviewed her notes, prepared the music she wanted to play, contemplated what to say and how to make it meaningful for this group of women.

When she went to the designated safe house to teach the course, she found — ONE woman!  This woman was very excited for the yoga class.  My wife had to re-calibrate as teaching just one person was a different experience than teaching a larger class.  She started slowly and watched to see what the woman already knew and what she could teach her to continue her yoga journey.

A few minutes into the yoga practice, my wife in a desire to personalize the experience asked what the woman would like to focus on.  The woman responded, “Can we just stretch a bit and then lay down and breathe?!”

Again, it took my wife a moment to re-calibrate – but she helped the woman through a few neck, back and leg stretches and then they laid down to b-r-e-a-t-h-e…

The woman relaxed and after another moment opened up and started talking to my wife — about her life, about her challenges and about her dreams.  They laughed together and they cried together while laying on their backs.  The woman thanked her private teacher repeatedly.  By the time my wife came home she was exhilarated by the experience of her yoga class at the battered women’s shelter.

She had CONNECTED for one of the most meaningful and mindful yoga sessions ever.  Two women, two strangers, appreciating the peace and simplicity of breathing had connected during a time of need and made each other stronger.

What we can learn from The Joy of Retirement is that by taking a moment, taking a breath, not rushing or focusing merely on our own needs, we can connect with people in new ways that bring meaning, fun and life lessons to ourselves and our family.  I am now excited to play guitar with my new group  each week; my wife is excited to share yoga with more people and see where the journey can take her… and it started by taking a simple breath.

Retire and Breathe!
Retirement should give you the time to BREATHE!

Take a moment to breathe, look around with new eyes, and you will see opportunities to improve the world!

What similar experience have YOU had lately?!  Let us know by commenting below!